Learning life’s lessons…

Image source: Kate Swaffer 2018

“Invisible wounds are the hardest to heal, and often their healing depends on the unconditional love of others.” 

Inner healing is also made very difficult when a person dies, and it is also really challenging to heal one’s own wounds, even when the person is still alive, when their love and affection is conditional.

2019 has been one of the toughest years of my life, although I have not shared here, or with many, why. I had honestly thought I’d been through most things, felt really sure I had experienced all there was to hurt from, but no, the lessons just keep coming my way.

Seriously, I’ve had more than my share of character building lessons in my life, enough in fact, for about ten people, so please Mr. Universe, whatever it is I am doing to encourage others to lie to me, or be unkind, help me finally learn the lessons!!! 

No joke, I’m too old for this shit…

Kate Swaffer ©️ 2019

Footnote: at some stage, I will craft my private journal writings about this year into a few blogs to publish here. For now, I am still too raw. Todays blog is a very small step back into public blogging, something I have felt unable to do for some time.

23 thoughts on “Learning life’s lessons…

  1. I understand where you are coming from. I had spent my life always looking for the best in people-certain that I could find it. Unfortunately, I have come to the realization that some people (a list too numerous too mention) are just jerks. No matter how hard you try-they are not satisfied unless they are appeased. I have read also your article about dementia and human rights. I am from the US and our policies are sorely lacking. We have no respect for mental health. We closed our institutions and sent the ill to the streets to fend for themselves. Residential services are certainly lacking. We also have on-going attempts by religious organizations to co-govern our society. I am an avid proponent of advanced directives to make my wishes known. ( I sympathize with you in your plight)- however our loss of secular governance has given way to theism where the rational has been swept away. We have not at all utilized hospice, and have not had any progress on end of life conversations. I agree with your assessment that people should remain active-I encourage you to do so. I also wish you the best. You have promoted worth-while issues-you should be commended.



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  3. I don’t know you, but I always read your posts….
    I sense your knowledge and your wisdom about many things just by reading your posts and I also sense your courage and compassion.
    I have just started my Bachelor in Dementia Care degree and it’s people like you that advocate, spread the word, encourage people like me to learn more about dementia and everything that goes with it.
    You are a great voice, an amazing person and I always look forward to your messages you give us.

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  4. It’s hard to say something but you’ve been very strong and brave. Hope there are people that are there for you. It is a difficult road you’re on. My brother is on same road. He also has been through extraordinary challenges in his life and this one is the cruelest. Trying my hardest to do the things he needs from me now and into future.


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