Advice for our children

Yesterday I received this request: “To my dear female friends, family, colleagues and funky ladeez, This is a personal request. My daughter, *****, is turning 16 on Monday. Wow where did the time go! Anyway, I am wanting to give her something that money can’t buy and that she can take with her wherever she…

Working on relationships

For a long time, I have believed if we spent the same time on our relationships as we do on our activities and work, there would be a lot fewer divorces or strained families and friendships. Before we get a job, most of us have to do some study or training, in an effort to…

Parents and expectations

When my youngest son was born, I felt sure I would not have expectations of him that would be burdensome. It was one of my long-term parenting goals. When taking out an insurance policy for him not long after he was born, his father and I had words because I had said I didn’t mind…

Memories and parenting

A tough topic for today! Parenting is something I have tried to consider consciously every day, and living with dementia means I try even harder. It is so easy to get lost in parenting, in the sense of parenting by rote the same way you were parented. It is also very easy to blame parents for…

Parenting, family meetings and real estate

In my blog yesterday, I talked about the fact we were toying with the idea of trying to help our big kids into their own real estate. The operative word there was toying, although one reader took this very seriously, and gently chided me about helping adult children too much. One other friend who has…