Re-thinking who I am

Recently, I have realised more clearly my directness and honesty, and deep desire for people to be honest in response has lost me friends over the years. Hence I’ve been wondering, does this mean I need to rethink who I am, or how I act or respond to the world? It came up in conversation with another friend…

What is a ‘good life’?

Jane S recently asked: “Kate, if you don’t mind me asking, I would love to hear your perspective on ‘a good life’ … what gives meaning to each day now? what gets you up each morning? what are the places, past-times and people who remain key to a good life? At the heart of my wonderings…

Friendship and truth

Steven Sabat gave a presentation about being a friend to someone with Alzheimer’s disease, and said in the face of dementia, people just don’t know what to do (or say), and I think this applies to other illnesses or crises too. This is why they ‘disappear’, not because they are bad people or don’t love…

Memories and parenting

A tough topic for today! Parenting is something I have tried to consider consciously every day, and living with dementia means I try even harder. It is so easy to get lost in parenting, in the sense of parenting by rote the same way you were parented. It is also very easy to blame parents for…