Christmas, family, friends, loss, grief, and hiraerth

If you are someone with dementia, or supporting a person with dementia, remember they may have hurts and losses, perhaps even similar to what I describe below, but consciously or unconsciously exacerbated with all the ‘joy’ of an occasion like Christmas, that is ripping up their heart inside, and making them seem more anxious, upset or angry. They…

What is a ‘good life’?

Jane S recently asked: “Kate, if you don’t mind me asking, I would love to hear your perspective on ‘a good life’ … what gives meaning to each day now? what gets you up each morning? what are the places, past-times and people who remain key to a good life? At the heart of my wonderings…

Farewell to my father in law

Farewell Dad. We have family and friends attending the funeral for my father in law today, and yesterday my dear husband and I farewelled him privately at the funeral home. My husband and best friend, who is Dad’s eldest son, also has the same name, the 3rdgeneration to have been named Peter Watt, and all…

Food and love…

Fridays mornings always glow in this house after the love and banter shared between us following what has become almost a ritual, our Thursday night family meal. The adult kids don’t stay late, but the few hours we have together is always perfect. In two weeks time, I was informed last night, we need to…