The grieving of a twin

The grieving of a twin is difficult, and perhaps more so for an identical twin. 29 years ago, someone I was very close to, in a fairly rocky relationship with and had loved for just over six years committed suicide. It changed my life forever, and eventually forced me to look deeply within, and to make changes to…

Contribution to a book about Suicide grief

I’m starting the week off with something other than dementia, a topic dear to my heart. Suicide grief is increasingly prevalent due to the rising rate of suicide, and I have been involved as a volunteer caring for people bereaved through suicide on and off for many years of my life, because of a number of personal…

On death and dying

I’ve published parts of the last two paragraphs of this blog before, but felt it worthy of re-blogging. Death and dying is a part of life, and the bonus of being given the possibility of a more finite time to live is that it does make you think very deeply about your life. Yes, I do believe it is…

What makes a successful team or support group?

It could be said the greatest predictor of a team’s future success is how people feel about each other. I’ve been volunteering on various committees lately, some of which are unbelievably cohesive and where all members respond to the workload and prepare for their meetings and tasks involved, and then I’ve had contact or involvement…

Shame and its offspring

Yes, Shame has an offspring. I believe it is called secrecy. People hide their feelings, their illnesses and their family secrets because they feel ashamed. Owning diseases like mental illness and dementia are difficult, as people feel ashamed to have them, and become secretive about them. Why is it shameful to own up to mental illness…

Every ending is a new beginning

My dear husband wrote in an email recently Life with you is anything but boring! He said it with love (??!!), and not too much frustration I hope. I have made active choices many times not to be boring, and life also has sent some curly situations my way to make sure my journey has…