Christmas, family, friends, loss, grief, and hiraerth

If you are someone with dementia, or supporting a person with dementia, remember they may have hurts and losses, perhaps even similar to what I describe below, but consciously or unconsciously exacerbated with all the ‘joy’ of an occasion like Christmas, that is ripping up their heart inside, and making them seem more anxious, upset or angry. They…

Letter to self

Dear Kate, This letter is being written to you to help you take stock of yourself, to help you remember YOUR glass is half full!!! Just because you have been diagnosed with dementia, and are finding it harder to paddle to get anywhere, this is no reason to give up. Sometimes you might have to paddle…

Farewell to my father in law

Farewell Dad. We have family and friends attending the funeral for my father in law today, and yesterday my dear husband and I farewelled him privately at the funeral home. My husband and best friend, who is Dad’s eldest son, also has the same name, the 3rdgeneration to have been named Peter Watt, and all…

Friendship and truth

Steven Sabat gave a presentation about being a friend to someone with Alzheimer’s disease, and said in the face of dementia, people just don’t know what to do (or say), and I think this applies to other illnesses or crises too. This is why they ‘disappear’, not because they are bad people or don’t love…

Friends, enemies and blogs

Just what is blogging? was the name of an event held at the SA Writer’s Centre which I attended with a fellow blogger and uni friend Elizabeth on Tuesday night, where Louise Pascale, Jane Howard and Sarah J Kreece presented on their experiences as bloggers and writers. It was interesting and educational and I thought…

Dementia meltdowns

These bloody things, they spring themselves upon us, completely out of the blue, and there seems to be no way of predicting when. Try as we might, my husband and I feel helpless to know what to do, not only to try to predict them, but to try to stop them or prevent them. The burden…

Remembering the unconditional love in my world

I need to say too, that there are many close friends and family who don’t judge me by my dementia, and who don’t think I am wrong all of the time, and most importantly who DO support and love me unconditionally. You know who you are, and along with my new online friends, you help me…