All alone

Yep, that’s me. Not one person took up the 366 day challenge to blog with me, and then publish it as a book, so if it is to be, it is up to me… writing, all alone, to keep up with my goal of writing daily blogs. I might find innovative ways to get some of you involved (look out!!), but as I have said, for now, if it is to be, it is up to me. It has been that way since my 14th birthday, so for that to change now would probably make me drop down dead. My husband and I sat home alone last night for New Years Eve, the kids both busy with their lives (as they should be), but, home alone, not one invitation to go out. And remembering the new me, even if we’d intended to go out, I’d probably have decided not to go at the last minute as I would have been too tired, or it would have been too far, or the crowds and noise would freak me out, or … whatever! That’s probably why we weren’t asked out either. Unfortunately for my husband and friends, I’ve often got some lame excuse. At least last night on New Year’s Eve there was the two of us, and I am lucky my dear husband is okay with whatever direction the dementia train goes each day. Anyway, I have started day 1 of the Kick Off 2012 with Project 366 with this short pathetic shallow blog, and have no idea what I’ll do with the project yet, as have not even started a newly named blog for it.  I have been trying to finish a 5000 word chapter of a book, and an Abstract for consideration to present at a conference in February, so do have a couple of neat little excuses. And, my niece and her two small boys came over for dinner and a swim… I promise I’ll try to make day 2 of Project 366 a bit more meaty!

14 thoughts on “All alone

  1. Hi Kate, My husband and I were also alone on New Year’s Eve. Actually I was asleep by 10.30pm. This year, I hope that my business NewPHASE will enable me to continue to strive to ensure that changes are invoked in the treatment, care, research and perception of people suffering with dementia (either in residential care or at home) and how the system deals with people categorised as “aged people”. My belief is that Government is striving to fix an unworkable system. I would like to see a new, fresh, innovative model. But to tell you the truth it is just so difficult to get through the gatekeepers to bring my suggestions to the table. I sometimes feel like I am a little fish in a very large pond. I am also going back to study this year towards a Masters. So with my advocacy drive, my business and my study, I hope I can keep up my energy. Thank you as you continue to inspire me with your drive and passion. Hope and Love Robyn

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  2. Sorry no one else took you up on it but I think you have the determination to see it through yourself and I bet you can find some ways to get others involved, even if not every day. Keep up all the good work you are doing and have a fulfilling and creative 2012.

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    • Thanks… having no-one take me up on this project is not a drama, although it seems there is one new blogger in Melbourne who has joined me now (see in my comments to this blog is you want to follow her).and your first response to the Project will always be there, pushing me to be sure what I write is worthwhile! Happy 2012 to you and I look forward to following your journey in France.

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  3. All will be as it should be Kate…Nobody is judging you. It will be an amazing trip for you and those who follow you…Go ahead, drag us in once in a while 🙂 Happy new year & warm wishes. VK

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    • Hi VK, I never feel judged, only by myself! My husband and I had a wonderful new years eve, and I look forward to our journey together with the 366 Project, and to dragging you in occasionally! Happy 2012! KS

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  4. Hey Kate,
    I’ve started a blog and I’m aiming to blog everyday of 2012 so I’ll keep reading your blog and would love it if you took the occasional look at mine. I was inspired by your blog to start one! Whilst I’m lucky enough to have my health, I love the idea of creating a record through writing. I’m sorry you didn’t have a nicer New Year, I’m guessing that you are still an expert in having a good time!
    Lots of Love,
    Eliza from Melbourne xxxxx
    http://postabdication.blogspot.com/

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    • Hey Eliza, how VERY EXCITING. I’m thrilled I have inspired you to start a blog, and you are joining in the challenge. I will follow yours with interest. Are you doing the 366 challenge on that site, or a private one? I’ve decided to just keep going on my current blog, and to look for ways to increase my conversations with others. I actually had a great New Years Eve, and yes, still quite good at having a good time, and am so vain I absolutely love my own company!! (Pete was asleep before 10.30pm!) Lots of love, Kate from Adelaide xxx

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  5. I took up a similar challenge a year ago, and it didn’t happen. The primary reason being a lack of subject matter.

    A few years ago I did a management course that included a very telling session. It went something like this:
    We all layed down in a classic meditating positon with eyes closed while the facilitator spoke:
    Imagine tomorrow a morning like any other work day, the alarm probably wakens you, you shower have breakfast, leave for work in the car, on public transport, etc, you arrive at work who greets you, who do you greet, go though your typical day imagining the people you will meet, the things you will do, what time do leave to come home, what happens on getting home, dinner, the family, relaxation, do you take work home, you go to bed, how do you sleep.

    Now imagine 1 year from today a morning like any other work day, the alarm probably wakens you, you shower have breakfast, leave for work in the car on public transport, you arrive at work who greets you, who do you greet, go though your typical day imagining the people you will meet, the things you will do, what time do leave to come home, what happens on geting home, dinner, the family, relaxation, do you take work home, you go to bed, how do you sleep.

    Now imagine 5 years from today ( I knew what was coming, I burst into tears knowing that just like a year from that day, my day would be the same and so it would be 5 years on.) a morning like any other work day, the alarm probably wakens you, you shower have breakfast, leave for work in the car on public transport, you arrive at work who greets you, who do you greet, go though your typical day imagining the people you will meet, the things you will do, what time do leave to come home, what happens on geting home, dinner, the family, relaxation, do you take work home, you go to bed, how do you sleep.

    It did change my life I do try not to have such a lifestyle. But there are periods when it is like that, partly by design and partly because I can get into a rut.

    So at the moment I choose not to take up the 366 day challenge, it is there in the background, but I am not going to beat myself up about not taking the challenge just yet.

    Happy New Year Kate.
    Paul

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    • Hi Paul, I also have done an exercise similar to this when involved in the motivation industry, and not only did it, but had others doing it! These days I think it is a harsh and possibly ridiculous way to try to get people to see a new way, as suspect experience is what it takes to truly make big changes in our lives. And, who is to say that living the same way for your whole life is not okay or is being in a rut, if you are enjoying what you do along with the predictability of a lifestyle. I have friends who are farmers, and they live a much simpler life than we do, and there are times I wished I could live (and think) like that, but for me, searching for meaning has always been there. Until I was dealt the terminal illness card, I mostly lived in a bit of a rut too, and recall what a surgeon asked of me many years ago when I was talking about some dream I had… are you a doer or are you just a gonna? It shocked me, and I started to make small changes to be more of a doer, but as you say, sometimes it is easy to stay there. You talked of your tears about your Dad being the same in five years, and I felt your pain and anguish. I have been wondering what is ahead for me, and have been particularly confronted over the last three months with all of the nursing home placements of family and friends. Too scary to think about, which is truly the best amazing motivator ever to be busy! Take care and all the best for 2012. Kate

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  6. kate, your post was so similar to mine re:new years eve…when the children were little we had family get togethers then they left home and do there own stuff. some of the family go to the river which does not work with Toni’s wheelchair and we like to have folks here but they still have their families or they have big parties which are not my thing, i got out of the loop when i had depression and now battle to get enthusiastic about watching a mob of middle aged get drunk and talk crap, i am turning into a bit of a loner which i don’t really like but then i can choose what i do and don’t do. i am a connector and was always the one social director and now…well hmm are these friends friends at all, are they staying home, are they going out without us, the 36ers on new years eve was a good stopgap as we could watch a game and stay on with folks we did or did not know, now that we are no longer members really cannot get motivated…hmmm i am beginning to see a common thread here, haha perhaps i need to get motivated … or continue to enjoy just being Trevor Toni and me…. no expectations, no disappointments …. and starting today swimming around was not a bad way to start 2012, three naked all round aussies hahahaha

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    • haha… great reply, especially the three naked aussies starting 2012 together! It doesn’t matter if friends are going out without us, becasue friends are just that, they are friends, and we can’t have any expectations of them, only ever ourselves. I think whatever we give and receive on any given day is exactly as it should be.

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