I’ve been thinking a lot about being a mum, and often say that a mother is only as happy as her unhappiest child. In wondering what to write today, I stumbled across this beautiful email that arrived in my Inbox some years ago. As it says at the end to pass it on, I decided to share it here. Let all mothers unite in their roles as Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations! It is always good to write about things other than dementia too.

“A woman, renewing her driver’s license at the County Clerk’s office was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation. She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself. “What I mean is,” explained the recorder, “do you have a job or are you just a……?”

“Of course I have a job,” snapped the woman. “I’m a Mum.”

“We don’t list ‘Mum’ as an occupation, ‘housewife’ covers it,” said the recorder emphatically.

I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall.

The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient and possessed of a high-sounding title like, “Official Interrogator” or “Town Registrar.”

“What is your occupation?” she probed. What made me say it? I do not know.  The words simply popped out.

“I’m a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations.”

The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair and looked up as though she had not heard right. I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most significant words.

Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written, in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.  “Might I ask,” said the clerk with new interest, “just what you do in your field?”

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply,

“I have a continuing program of research, [what mother doesn’t) in the laboratory and in the field, (normally I would have said indoors and out). I’m working for my Masters, (first the Lord and then the whole family) and already have four credits (all daughters). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities, (any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money.”

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk’s voice as she completed the form, stood up and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants — ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model, (a 6 month old baby) in the child development program, testing out a new vocal pattern.

I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy!

And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than “just another Mum.” Motherhood! What a glorious career! Especially when there’s a title on the door.

Does this make grandmothers “Senior Research associates in the field of Child Development and Human Relations” and great grandmothers “Executive Senior Research Associates”? I think so!!!
I also think it makes Aunts “Associate Research Assistants”.

Please send this to another Mum, Grandmother, Aunt and other friends you know. May your troubles be less, your blessings be more and nothing but happiness come through your door!”

I do not know who wrote this, but am in awe of it, and feel it perfectly represents what mothers do, and shows the importance and significance of our role. Fathers fit into this too, but probably have a different job title and description. They are just as important as mothers, and should always be applauded too.