Where am I, where have I been?

where am iWell, that question is not an easy one to answer although those of you who follow my blog daily will know about Star. She died peacefully in our arms exactly two weeks ago, no longer in pain, and waiting for me in garden in the sky somewhere. For a few days since I couldn’t write anything, nor do anything to speak of, not even publish a blog as my heart has been broken with grief over the loss of my cat and friend. I know others will relate to this; she was so much more than just a cat, she was a part of our family, in the very same way our children are.

As Austin Powers would say, I lost my mojo!

In some ways, the loss of this type of friend is more difficult due to the fact you spend so much time with them, their love is so unconditional, and you virtually never have a cross word. Maybe not everyone spends a lot of time with their family pets, but I most definitely have in the years since I’ve been grounded from driving, and she was my day and night time company through all my surgeries and illnesses, there every day when others could not be, simply because of school or work, or their own equally important commitments.

Also this year, I’ve been to various corners of the country and world, travelling on and off, but seemingly constantly since the beginning of April. Some days I have wondered where I am, and where I’ve been. And also, where I’m going!! My BUB has not always been with me, and I have had to rely on others to support me. Thankfully I have a terrific network of other BUBs, available to assist, most of them having lived with someone with dementia, and so they see between the gaps where others don’t. However, from now on, my dear husband will travel with me as it is getting harder to manage.

I’ve had a visit from a friend this week whose marriage has broken up, and she has to face re-creating her world almost from scratch, with limited resources and the challenges of finding employment over the age of 65. She  has bravely decided to head to Sri Lanka to volunteer for six months, teaching English to Buddhist monks. I suspect the experience will fill her heart and soul with a new sense of peace, and freedom. Freedom from the expectations of others, and herself. We talked about the Universe supporting her, and both firmly believe it will. As the chicken’s walkie-talkie friend says, we are exactly where we should be!

12 thoughts on “Where am I, where have I been?

  1. I’m so sorry for your loss. I truly understand. I didn’t have kids–my dogs were my kids. I was physically ill for a month when I lost my shadow. I will be completely devastated when the time comes for my sweet Dulcinea.


  2. Hey Dear friend….I know, I won’t even write about it as I can deeply relate and you know that..Of course it will get better one day down the road, but that doesn’t lessen the pain of today. Perhaps one day not too far off you can embrace a new baby. I always do, I cannot imagine life everyday without a cat. That will cheer your heart. It will never replace the other, only fill up the hole left behind. Hang in there Kate. Wish I were close enough to stop by for lunch and a hug…..In thought I can….Much love…VK


  3. sorry for your loss I too am devastated when I lose one of my babies my children often tell friends that my animals come first ,and that I make better food for them than my family .They are just like my kids , ,feel better soon cheers Shazza


The only thing missing in this global conversation is YOUR voice... Thank you.

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.