From the blog, Memory for two:
“For the first three months after Ash’s diagnosis (and many months/years leading up to it) I was cross with him and at the world for not giving me the life I was expecting.
As a result Ash was permanently in a state of turmoil and really struggled to cope with life which put us in a downward spiral of distress and chaos.
Once I understood the effect my attitude was having on him and changed the way I behaved the difference in him was almost instantaneous. He was calmer, interested in life around him, remembered people etc etc.
Even now if I’m having a bad day his dementia is much worse so I stay calm as much as I possibly can but as much for my sake as his.”
Dementia is not for sissies, for sure, and anyone who is supporting someone diagnosed with dementia is definitely an Angel.
I do however, think ‘our’ attitude (the person diagnosed AND their partner or the person supporting them) makes a huge difference.