The last few weeks I’ve been watching on the sidelines as numerous people with dementia have been abandoned, and even abused by their families or a partner.
It’s truly disturbing to watch, and I fully understand the pain and impact of this on worsening a persons dementia symptoms, as have had it happen to me.
No idea why people without dementia could be so cruel?
It could be a combination of many things, for example:
Money and greed?
A form of abuse?
The stigma of dementia?
Not ‘looking like we have dementia’?
The influence of others who are ignorant of the reality of dementia?
Unkind people in our lives?
Or maybe just selfishness?
Whatever it is, it’s gut wrenching to watch people playing cruel games and manipulating the truth to justify their behaviours.
The cost of this is very high as it impacts a persons ability to function, to sleep, to manage things like pain, and also increased isolation and loneliness, often leading to depression and suicidal ideation.
The worst case scenario is homelessness.
To all the families and friends without dementia , my 2019 wish is that you love and support people in your family with dementia, in the same way you would if they had cancer. It’s not much to ask for really, and the long term benefits to everyone will be inner peace and NO REGRETS when the person dies.