It would seem to me
The answer to that
Depends completely
On who breaks your heart
An old lover
One gets over
The death of a partner
One eventually recovers
Th loss of friends
After a diagnosis of dementia
I’m not so sure…
The death of a child
For many, never
But the broken heart
Caused by the destruction and hatred
Within ones own family
As much as I’d like to say yes
You will get over it
I suspect the real answer is
No, not ever.
Although we are very lucky that none of there friends have stopped seeing them-there support has been absolutely wonderful and we are very grateful for that-just some family members though. I’ll say my family are one of the “lucky ones” as not many people have been mean to him or taken advantage of him compared to other families but wish it was none though.
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I’m glad Sam, and I hope it stays that way. They are very lucky to have you in it too xx
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So true and i am sure it will as they have been lifelong friends of my Grandads. 2 of them since he was about 8 or 9 or 11-school friends and the other few for about 40+ years and one through family friends. Old friends are the best!💜😊👍
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My school girlfriends have mostly deserted me, but some of the ‘boys’ have been amazing. Ashamed sometimes to have been a nurse; and ashamed sometimes to be a woman! The media talks about men and violence, but they have not yet covered how so many females are such total bitches… most of my nursing girlfriends are all still close xx
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All too common Kate – don’t get me started on my wife’s family (and she will agree!). Fortunately my side is small and relatively sane. Something to accept and not tolerate as someone once told me.
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I love that line… accept, but do not tolerate! I’ve done the former for a long time, s the latter tactic is me from now on! Cheers
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Kate, Veda and I both had dysfunctional families, in different ways. We’ve each moved on, followed our dreams long ago. Our families now are peripheral and the chief neurotics, our mothers, have died, so in that sense we’re free.
But sure, there’s bagage that rears its head now n’then. Just gotta do the work, eh? Sometimes we see old wounds resurface in our “stress” reactions.
Life’s too bloody short to remain weighed down by the past. xx
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you are right about life being too short to worry about the past… onwards and upwards xox
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For many coming from not so nice homes, family ties break us inside and that kind of break has no healing for it plays a huge role in how we grow up, how we think, how we view the world. If that is all warped, it is next to impossible to heal for we grow up thinking the world and ourselves are something we are not….. Love and hugs…VK ❤
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Based on the number of private responses I’ve had, it seems, there are more dysfunctional families than not… love and hugs to you VK xx
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So true-aren’t family and friends complicated-my family has become complicated after Grandad’s diagnosis with Alzhiermers although it makes life interesting with my Aunties approach!
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Yes inded, and life in general I think Sam, because mostly because we are human and all think differently.
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