“Grief is that devastatingly painful but incredible and beautiful expression of your love … It’s ok and it’s yours and don’t let anyone tell you that you should get over it or how you should feel.
It is self-ish in the sense that it is yours. End of story. No need to compare or worry what others think. Know though that others feel some of your pain because they love you too.
Sometimes it feels as if no one else understands your grief. Well that’s partly true, but, others love you and would help if they could. Ask them. Tell them what you need. Also remember you may need to grieve alone, at least some of the time.
And others really need to understand this, and that pushing them away occasionally does not mean you don’t need or love them but is necessary for your ability to go on. You just need to be alone. But you will need them to come back too…”
Written from my heart and my experience of love and grief.
Kate Swaffer © 22 January 2016