A message to the dementia doubters, by my B.U.B. Peter Watt
Have you ever wanted to tell a dwarf to grow up?
Someone in a wheelchair to stand on his or her own two feet?
Or perhaps someone without arms to lend you a hand?
Of course not!
Well this happens to my wife and anybody else who is living well with dementia every day.
How would you feel if you were a redhead that had just done really well in your exams only to have someone tell you that the university, college or school had dumbed the test down for you because we all know that redheads are notoriously stupid.
Or would you feel it’s unfair that they should let wheelchair athletes use wheelchairs.
It seems that when things are blindingly obvious we are astute and intelligent, but when things require the slightest amount of thought we revert to type.
If you were living well with dementia would you be enthusiastic and uplifted if I told you didn’t know what you were talking about, couldn’t possibly have dementia because you were doing well regardless of your enormous effort that it takes you to function.
That you had cheated, or people had given you that degree or certificate because we all know you have dementia and are not capable of anything … is highly offensive.
Unfortunately I know and expect these comments from ignorant and uneducated people. But from doctors, researchers and heath care professionals I expect so much more.
In doubting the effort that it takes to live well with dementia you make yourself more stupid than the distasteful and insulting comments you make to those with dementia who are working their arses off to live better with dementia.
Hopefully we never meet.
Note: this blog was written recently by my darling husband, who is very loyal, and obviously gets upset with the attitude of some. Richard Taylor read it, and apparently was amused enough to have raised himself up out of his chair with laughter!