I only ever make a real stand about things that I honestly believe matter, even if to begin with I’m the only person in the whole world who believes it.
But, some would say I should learn the lesson and simply shut up.
The Martin Luther King Jnr. quote “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about the things that matter” is true, and matters to me. He and others like him continue to be my role models. Richard Taylor is to me as much as a mentor and his wisdom and vocal teachings for change just as important as Dr King or Ghandi.
I am not afraid of the truth, or of anyone else’s. I’m also not afraid to be wrong, or challenged.
Bullying causes intense pain to those of us experiencing it; suffering is still optional.
Many years ago I stood up to domestic violence. and in fact I won a court case over it. The perpetrator to this day, still does not acknowledge, recognise or believe he was abusive. He also converted a number of my friends and family at the time to believe him, and I lost a lot of support from family and friends at the time, some of them never really coming back. Bullies are no different to this, and mostly, can never see their actions or words as wrong.
The recent need to deactivate my Facebook account, and then block a few people on Twitter, is because I believe they were indulging in cyber bullying against me. They even attacked a couple of my more vocal supporters! And they also’rallied their troops’ to mass attack me. Of course, they do not believe it was abusive or a dose cyber bullying.
A couple of days ago, I have been warned by real friends (still on Facebook) not to come back yet to Facebook, as ‘they’ are still at it. Wow, how much venom can a group of people in a Care Group have against a person with dementia, or in fact, against any person. Just like the person I ended up having to take a domestic violence restraining order out against, they, of course, do not believe they are being abusive.
I’ve just added this paragraph to this draft blog, as have had the absolute pleasure of a young uni friend of mine call in to visit me this afternoon. She was bullied enough to be off work on Workcover in the first school she worked in after completing her teaching degree, and who is being bullied again by colleagues at her job interstate. We talked about why it happens, and realise it is probably because we threaten the other person/people in some way, perhaps their status, their opinion, their work ethic, their position of power… or maybe, some people are just nasty mean people.
Who knows, but bullying of any kind is no different to domestic violence. It is against the law, it is hurtful and harmful, and it is downright mean.
The perpetrators of domestic violence and the cyber bullies; they are one and the same.