There are many days it seems impossible to make a choice about whether you are happy or sad… and we all have to face challenges, the death of a loved one, and other things that can push us into the pit of misery.
I often use an old fashioned set of weighing scales as a visual aid (in my mind), and actively say to myself, will I choose to be miserable about X,Y or Z, or will I choose to build a bridge and be happy with my lot in life. It might not work for everyone, and doesn’t always work immediately, but most of the time, this technique eventually works for me.
To say I dislike having PLOM disease, and I do get it more often than I like, is true! Ps. PLOM disease stands for Poor Little Old Me, and is ok for a while as we adjust to something difficult or a loss or illness, but to stay there, for me, is no fun at all. I also find it hard, even challenging to be around those who appear to prefer to have it more than not. Not that I am intolerant or unsympathetic person, but simply that I honestly believe we all have a choice.
So on a scale of 1-10, 1 being really unhappy, if I slide too far in that direction, I get out my scales, tell myself to build a bridge, and say to myself ‘Toughen Up Princess’, a saying often laughingly said with friends from Poochera, and sometimes even a few tears!