This is an interesting thought, all the more so when I think about it for people with dementia and memory loss. Often, the things I do remember now that my changing memory or ability to recall information is challenged, are sometimes those things someone has done that I have felt upset by.
Men often tell me, its odd (perhaps even annoying!) that their wives, even those of us with dementia, can often still remember the details of something they did wrong (?!), but can’t always recall so many other things?!
But, I guess, if your memories of someone are not pleasant, especially incidents from many years ago, that may well be heightened with a dementia, and could, perhaps, be why some people with dementia no longer like a person or family member.
Random, unexplainable, never meant to be unkind I am sure… but an interesting thought for me this week!
The quote on this image though, is worth consideration; I feel it is important to do our best, and be our best, so that if we are remembered by anyone at all, it will be a good one…
Finally, I’d like to close this blog with a quote from a new member of DAI, Dr Adeyinka Babatunde Agbebiyi who was a surgeon in Nigeria, and now is living with a dementia:
“Maybe it is not a bad thing not remembering. I don’t think I am missing out on the lack of memories. I am fine with what memories I am left with. Can you miss something you don’t know is missing? I like meeting new people and making new friends. It’s a good life.”