Honesty can be painful, especially when someone else is telling you something you either don’t know about yourself, or haven’t been able to see or accept about yourself, or perhaps that you don’t like about yourself. Looking in the mirror is for many, the hardest lesson of all; it definitely was for me! Personal growth is the best type of growth, at least it has been for me.
Since dementia, our relationships with many have changed. Some people have simply disappeared, including many of the relationships with family members. Not to be able to share in my life, the good, the bad and sometimes the downright ugly, has been very sad and difficult for me to accept, but, I will not accept dishonesty. I have, of course, had to pay quite a big price for that, also my choice.
But, I’d rather have honesty, and true friendship, with blood related or others, than have dishonest relationships. Luckily I do have a truly wonderful group of very close friends, a brilliant husband and two truly amazing sons, and a lovely circle of extended friends, some who I know and have worked with, some I have only met online. We are all capable of being honest with each other, and I LOVE YOU ALL for that.